In a world where it can feel like chaos is unending (perhaps even moreso since you got sober because of the clarity gained), routines can provide an enormous amount of comfort and stability. When drinking and using drugs, you might have had a hyper-structured schedule and may have used substances to find relief from the mundanity and tedium of that routine. Perhaps you had little to no routine, which enabled binge usage with very few parameters. Or maybe you had a safety net of routine when you were in a sober living and find independent living to be paralyzing when it comes to finding a daily rhythm. Whatever may be the case, it’s undeniable that routines (or lack thereof) can have a tremendous effect on how one uses or stays away from substances. Likewise, in recovery your routines and rituals can provide emotional and physical scaffolding between you and picking up that first drink or drug. Maybe the idea of incorporating some structure into your days makes you recoil, but try adding some into the day, however temporarily, and decide for yourself as to which practices feel like they will be sustainable.
A Flexible Routine
The definition of routine is “a series of actions regularly followed.” Think back on the routines you had around using substances and how they might have been non-negotiables to you. Had you not upheld these routines even in times of treacherous weather (whether literally or regarding the state of your mind)? I recall many a time traveling in dangerous conditions to head to a party or to procure certain substances. In sobriety, upholding helpful and healthy practices can help you not just […]